Why I Won’t Tip You If You’re A Waiter – Presented with Author permission– Bhgagwad Jal Park
Scott Young Says– This is an article I came across that I thought would go very well here to stimulate a conversation and better understanding.
Yes, he’s talking about waiter table servers but I think there are many points he makes that are applicable to all types of servers.
I personally don’t agree with his points, but It’s useful to understand people and their motivations so hold on for a bumpy ride as you read and walk a mile in another person’s shoes. Have you ever seen a waiter demand tips from customers?
Bhgagwad Jal Park Says…
Explains my reasons for not tipping my waiter and debunks the usual excuses that are used to demand tips from customers.
It never fails to shock me how a tip is demanded in the US. People simply refuse to listen to reason when we (yes, there are others!) tell them that leaving a tip isn’t necessary.
Well, I’m hoping for too much here, but if you’re a waiter, here are 5 reasons why I will try my best not to give any money to you and why the reasons for tipping are crappy.
You act as if you’re my best friend
Just leave me alone ok? I don’t want to bloody chit chat with you. I want food. FOOD! Get it? It’s a restaurant.
I go there to eat. I go because I want either Italian food, Chinese Food or something else which I can’t get in a McDonald’s.
So I come to a restaurant to fulfill my cravings for it. I will pay for what I value – food. Not you.
Christ, you offend me – kneeling down next to my table, pretending to like me and chatting as if you’re my best friend when it’s obvious that all you’re after is the tip! I’m not a bloody money bag you know.
I will pay the bill which includes the cost of the food, the environment and the salaries of the people involved – nothing more.
The only way to get money out of me that I don’t have to legally pay is by prying it out of my cold dead hands…
I don’t want to know your name, or interact with you for any longer than I have to in order to place my order.
As far as I’m concerned, you’re the equivalent of a conveyor belt that brings me my food and a computer into which I input my order.
Of course, I won’t be rude. But don’t expect me to interact with you any more than I would with some stranger.
Did you earn this tip?
You don’t get paid enough.
And this is my problem how exactly?
It’s astonishing that customers are expected to make up for your employer’s cheapness in not paying you a decent wage.
Please include the full cost in everyone’s bill thank you very much.
I’ll pay it because I have to and the charge is there for me to see.
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What’s really funny here is that no one seems to criticize the employers!
All criticism is reserved for non tipping customers instead of the owners of the restaurant for not paying a decent wage.
Wtf! Could it possibly be because you guys know you can make much more by tips and under report your income to the IRS?
You’ll spit in my food if I don’t tip you?
And I’ll shoot your kid if you don’t give me a million dollars. Seriously, am I even hearing this right? You’re actually using the threat of blackmail to make me pay you?
Well as long as you’re openly claiming to be a criminal it’s all right I guess.
Fortunately that’s why I prefer buffets. Listen apart from it being illegal, this shows your poor integrity.
But if you spit in someone’s food because they didn’t give you money you didn’t earn, then you’re a loser and deserve to be a waiter for the rest of your life.
Bringing me my food isn’t worthy of being paid extra
Did you cook it? Did you invent it? No. You picked it up and brought it to me. While it might not be easy, there are plenty of jobs which are much worse – shop floor workers for example.
And I’ve been a shop floor manager, so I know.
Face it – compared to other jobs, being a waiter is unskilled. You get paid what the market will think your services are worth.
You don’t deserve more for your work over and above what your employer should pay you.
Money doesn’t grow on trees
I expect you to be grateful and pray for me at night if I tip you 10%. Be happy I gave you anything at all.
I worked for the money in my wallet and by giving you some I didn’t have to, I’m doing you a favor.
Learn to remember that when people give you something they don’t need to, it’s a favor. You don’t complain that they didn’t give you more!
By the way, the same thing above applies to all professions that demand tips including those on cruise liners.
So now that you understand why I won’t give you money you don’t deserve, stop with the “oh how could you?” attitude. I can. And I will.
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Because many people who make a living in the service industry do so by making tips, , the author makes some pretty good points.
Please be respectful. We can have disagreements and still use basic common courtesy.
1) How Would You Respond to His Five Main Points and Explanations?
First ) You act as if you’re my best friend
Second ) You don’t get paid enough
Third ) You’ll spit in my food if I don’t tip you?
Fourth ) Bringing me my food isn’t worthy of being paid extra
Fifth ) Money doesn’t grow on trees
2) Most importantly, how would you try, here, not while you’re working, to change someone’s mind from being a non-tipper into a tipper?
What job? Do you make tips?
8) Have you ever seen a waiter demand a tip?
9) Is it ever acceptable for a waiter to demand tips?
10) Last, Have you had a Bad or Lousy tipping experience?
Thank you for adding your wisdom to the discussion.
I agree that the tipping system in North America is ridiculous. Seriously, it does not benefit anyone.
However, people should educate themselves on how this system works, the tip isn’t simply ‘topping up wages’. By not leaving a tip it has cost the server to serve you. That is where the spitting in food threat (one that I believe most professionals would never do, and yes hospitality workers are professionals.
Far more than a ‘conveyor belt for [your] food’) comes from: the fact it costs the server to serve you if you do not tip. The chefs and bartenders he was so sarcastically worried about do get something for the work they have done. They get tipped out by the server based on their sales. Nothing to do with how much tips have been received. It is sales that determine the tip out.
To conclude, if you are too ignorant to understand the system don’t eat out. If you understand the system but are too tight to tip, don’t eat out. Well, not unless you are doing everything in your power to help change this obviously corrupt, ridiculous tipping system that pervades North America.
This doesn’t excuse servers running after guests who haven’t tipped them etc, as rare as this is. It is, at the end of the day, the system that we have agreed to work in and you will get stiffed sometimes. Deal with it, work on why it happened, get on with your day.
P.s I am bartender working in Canada. I work in a place with many tourists, especially from Australia and the UK (where I am from) where there is a very different – almost nonexistent- tipping culture. So I often explain how it works while on shift.
People are usually appalled when I do this and will then increase their tip. I had one family who now realising what they had done to other servers went back around restaurants rectifying their mistake.
Truly good people who understand the hard work that goes into serving and bar tending.
Of course we have all had lousy service and we can choose not to tip. I still don’t want it to cost someone though, especially as I know how hard the job can be. I will ask what their tip out is and leave that much.
Dear friends, this is just my opinion.. First thus the person that rights this text works in the business? Secondly, where? Thirdly, what tipe off guest do they have, my point is.. Waiting tables is a bad job? You’re mistaken, are you a bad Bartender? Are you a Bartender, a good one? Are you a very good Bartender? Shame on you, go out there and see the reality, smell the coffee, you are qualified to be a bad business man. Shame on you! Should you hever visit my workplace and I will teach a thing or two off how to treat a guest, tip tip tip tip tip yourself about knowledge, before you right stuff like this.